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Guest Post: Five Ways to Boost Your Self-Esteem

Oct 13, 2015 BY Natalie Shay

They say the truth will set you free, so here it is: I have low self-esteem. I lack confidence in quite a few areas in my life, so I work on it regularly.

The thing is it’s not just me. Statistics show that 95% of people lack self-esteem. This doesn’t just mean that somebody doesn’t like the way they look. It could be that they lack confidence in speaking their mind and end up keeping their mouth shut. Other people put on a “know-it-all act” to cover up their feelings.

Whatever area you feel you need to work on, here are five ways to start changing this feeling in your life now:

1. Make a list

List the things that make you feel good about yourself. Is it going to the gym? Hanging out with specific people? Getting a job done?

2. Note what makes you feel inadequate

This is definitely not a fun one, but we all have things that bring our confidence down. Do you feel overweight? Do you feel that you’re not good at a part of your job, like making presentations? Do you feel that you lack education? Debating skills? Whatever it is, it’s in your head already, so you might as well write it down, and then you can start taking it in baby steps.

3. Start being nice to yourself

If you do not speak nicely to yourself or treat yourself well, nobody else will either.

I always recommend carrying a picture of yourself as a child and asking yourself “Would I speak to her like that?”

4. Notice the negative statements you say to yourself

We all have a voice in our head Start noticing what you are saying to yourself and write it down. Would you let somebody else speak to you like that?

5. Break it down into manageable steps

If your goal is to become a better public speaker, do not start agreeing to do presentations. The first step would be to research classes or courses that can help you learn how to make better presentations. If it is getting fit, it may be best not to join a gym right away, but to see how you can incorporate activity into your schedule. Maybe you can walk to the grocery store when you only have a few things to buy, for example. Or maybe you can take the stairs to your office.

I hope you have a stress-free day!


Oct 13, 2015 BY Natalie Shay
Jenny   •   October 14, 2015

Great article. I get really overwhelmed with all the areas I want to improve on. This helps me narrow it down.

Kate McDonald Walker   •   October 15, 2015

Thanks so much! Kate - Joyous Health Team

Jenny   •   October 14, 2015

Great article. I struggle with low self-esteem and this makes tackling it more manageable.

Kate McDonald Walker   •   October 15, 2015

Glad it's helping! Kate - Joyous Health Team

Caitlin   •   October 15, 2015

I get why it would be helpful to write down the things we like about ourselves, but what is the purpose of writing down the negative stuff ? Just to get it out ?

Kate McDonald Walker   •   October 15, 2015

Exactly! Getting it out there can help you process it better. Kate - Joyous Health Team

Marianne Greer   •   November 3, 2015

I really like #3. Being nice to yourself is so important. To take it once step further, how about love yourself. We are so worthy of loving ourselfs. Thanks for your inspirational post!


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