They say the truth will set you free, so here it is: I have low self-esteem. I lack confidence in quite a few areas in my life, so I work on it regularly.
The thing is it’s not just me. Statistics show that 95% of people lack self-esteem. This doesn’t just mean that somebody doesn’t like the way they look. It could be that they lack confidence in speaking their mind and end up keeping their mouth shut. Other people put on a “know-it-all act” to cover up their feelings.
Whatever area you feel you need to work on, here are five ways to start changing this feeling in your life now:
1. Make a list
List the things that make you feel good about yourself. Is it going to the gym? Hanging out with specific people? Getting a job done?
2. Note what makes you feel inadequate
This is definitely not a fun one, but we all have things that bring our confidence down. Do you feel overweight? Do you feel that you’re not good at a part of your job, like making presentations? Do you feel that you lack education? Debating skills? Whatever it is, it’s in your head already, so you might as well write it down, and then you can start taking it in baby steps.
3. Start being nice to yourself
If you do not speak nicely to yourself or treat yourself well, nobody else will either.
I always recommend carrying a picture of yourself as a child and asking yourself “Would I speak to her like that?”
4. Notice the negative statements you say to yourself
We all have a voice in our head Start noticing what you are saying to yourself and write it down. Would you let somebody else speak to you like that?
5. Break it down into manageable steps
If your goal is to become a better public speaker, do not start agreeing to do presentations. The first step would be to research classes or courses that can help you learn how to make better presentations. If it is getting fit, it may be best not to join a gym right away, but to see how you can incorporate activity into your schedule. Maybe you can walk to the grocery store when you only have a few things to buy, for example. Or maybe you can take the stairs to your office.
I hope you have a stress-free day!