I thought it would be fun to post a monthly update about life with our sweet Vienna with the highlights and things Walker and I have learned. If you want to start at the beginning, I wrote a post about her birthing story which you can read here .
This past week our gentle soul Vivi turned 4 weeks old. I can't believe how the time flies by and as I look back I'm feeling teary-eyed because it's been a life-changing amazing experience. I'm doing my best to cherish every moment in between burps, smiles, cries, feeds, diaper changes and moments, yes moments...of sleep.
The first 10 days were tough for me because I had a lot of pain with breastfeeding which I learned quickly is extremely common. Basically, my nips were being butchered because Vienna and I hadn't figured out a good latch and she had tightness in her jaw (my chiro helped her with that). I did my research because I wanted to get it right so I met with two lactation consultants, watched countless Youtube videos, read online forums and studied numerous photos of proper latching. Before turning into a crazy person trying to figure this out, I realized that her latch doesn't have to "look" perfect and that Vivi and I need to figure out what works for us. This changed everything!
During those first 10 days I was also on a mission to get some fat on her lean body because although she was born at a healthy 7lbs, she dropped to 6lbs 7oz when I was going through my breastfeeding challenges. My midwife advised me to top up with formula. At the time, I felt like a complete failure and was upset that my milk wasn't helping her gain weight. Once I got over the fact I felt like I was giving McDonald's to Vienna, we topped up an ounce or two in the evening with organic formula. I realize looking back this isn't a big deal.
I was just trying to be the perfect mom and perfection is just not reality.
The most important thing is her health and gaining a healthy amount of weight. Which we've achieved!
Here are the things I've learned and the highlights of the past 4 weeks with Vienna:
- No matter what kind of day I'm having as soon as she smiles everything is joyous again.
- She prefers pop music to classical. How do I know this? She cries when I put 96.3 (classical radio) on in the car and either falls asleep or just chills out when I play Beyonce or Swifty!
- It's A OKAY to give her a soother.. any judgmental people can go fly a kite! People are very opinionated about this. Do what's right for you and your babe.
- I love gazing into her pretty eyes. I think she wins every staring contest we have though.
- No matter how much she cries or fusses (and she's a pretty good babe), I have a mountain of patience. Maybe that will change in time and I will pull my hair out but I honestly I didn't know I had it in me to be this patient with another human being.
- I've put on mascara once and I've only washed my hair 3 times in 5 weeks and yet... I'm okay with this! Don't worry, I do take baths. But I did manage to get my bangs trimmed AND get a manicure WOOT WOOT!
- It is possible to still eat healthy nourishing food. Walker has been in a HUGE help in this department. We've made and posted these DELICIOUS recipes since Vivi arrived: Kale Salad with Creamy Cashew Dressing, Chickpea Savoury Pancakesand No Bake Pumpkin Pie.
- Oh and learned the hard way: DO NOT read online forums about breastfeeding. You'll end up feeling like a failure -- again, do what is right for you and your babe.
I asked Walker what he's learned about being a dad to V and here's what he said:
- Vienna has adopted my love for animals at an early age, so much so that she likes a baby goat
- Where did all this laundry come from?? Either the washer or dryer is running at all times of the day. I wouldn't be surprised if there was some evil plan by big corporations to impregnate more women in an effort to sell more detergent
- It's amazing what you can do when you have no other choice. No sleep? No problem! Wipe soiled bums numerous times/day? No problem! Carry someone around all day and have them vomit on your shoulder? No problem! Under any other circumstance I think most of us would say a polite (or not so polite) "no thank you", but in the case of your littel bean, you happily do it without thinking twice.
- I wrote a post a few months ago on "3 Things I Learned Becoming a Dad (Before actually becoming a dad)" – turns out I was bang-on about points #1 & #3!
Do you have any stories or experiences to share about your first month with your little one?